Bottom (sex)
In the context of
human sexual behavior, especially
anal sex among
gay men, a
bottom is a receptive partner (that is, a partner who is penetrated), or a person who prefers the receptive role. The counterpart is a
top. A person who enjoys both topping and bottoming is called
versatile or a
switch. These terms are also used frequently in some
lesbian circles, and are gaining use among some opposite-sex couples too. For example, the act of
pegging involves a female
top and a male bottom.
"Bottom" can also be used as an intransitive verb meaning to be sexually penetrated by:
to bottom for someone.The terms "submissive" or "passive" have been used for "bottom,", though these may be confusing as the sex in question needn't be part of a dominance relationship, nor is the bottom necessarily any less "active" than the top. Common slang terms in some gay communities include: pitcher (top), catcher (bottom) and switch hitter (versatile). In some languages "passive" and "active" are always used, rather than "bottom" or "top". Some gay men dislike the term "bottom" as they feel it has negative connotations, and prefer not to use that term or the corresponding "top".
By extension, the term "bottom" is also used in
BDSM to mean a partner who receives stimulation from another, and who may or may not be
submissive. See
bottom (BDSM).
Bottoms sometimes identify themselves by wearing a set of keys on the right side of the belt or a
color-coded handkerchief in their right rear pocket. In this system the bottom was not always penetrated, nor was he always the "passive" partner, rather the "bottom" role was different from act to act. This practice, called
flagging, began in the gay male subculture but appears to be dying out.
In sexually-themed
anime and
manga, especially
shounen-ai and
yaoi, a bottom is referred to as
uke.